Hello and welcome.
If you've been sticking with the challenge you may be ready to have some fun so this week is dedicated to that. It's easy for life to get serious and filled with all of those to-do's. But fun isn't just for kids and has an amazing healing affect. And after a very relaxing or enjoyable experience you may find you have more energy for your goals and commitments.
Your Challenge:
Find something fun to do. If you aren't sure think about what you used to love to do or ask your friends what they like. Maybe go get a relaxing massage or facial. Maybe plan or go on a vacation. Maybe just play for a bit. That's it!
What I'm working on:
My husband and I will be going on our cross country drive with our two chihuahuas and two cats. We sold the FL condo and will have the closing for our new home in Sarasota FL next week. We are both excited about the journey and happy and hopeful about our future. While the trip will be long and challenging at times I will continue to focus on the blessings in my life and take in the beauty and new sites around me.
Have a fantastic week! This is my last post from the lovely Northwest. Next time I write I will be back in the Southeast. Until then; live well.
Friday, September 17, 2010
Week 14 - Planning
If you read the title and this makes you want to hide under your covers don't worry. It's not as bad as you think. You don't need to be a logical, analytical type to be a good planner. You can be a good dreamer. Here is your challenge
The Challenge:
1) Look over your vision, mission, purpose and goal then sit back and close your eyes. Now imagine a natural progression from where you are with your goal and where it is you want to be. Walk through it; day dream and imagine the wonderful possibilities.
2) Write down some important points that may have come up for you in Step #1.
3) Create action items. If you feel like you are not ready then consider requesting my strategizing worksheet. I would be more than happy to send you one or you can purchase a copy of my book Four Steps to a Better Life for $9.95 at http://www.gallaghersolutions.com/book.html. The worksheet is in the book plus other good information that will help you to complete the worksheet.
What I'm working on:
I LOVE to plan. The other day while I was at the vet with my cat the receptionist said "I bet you are so organized". I am but over planning can turn into worrying if you are not careful so keep it productive and then start thinking about something else. That's what I need to work on anyway. :)
Have a great week and Live Well
The Challenge:
1) Look over your vision, mission, purpose and goal then sit back and close your eyes. Now imagine a natural progression from where you are with your goal and where it is you want to be. Walk through it; day dream and imagine the wonderful possibilities.
2) Write down some important points that may have come up for you in Step #1.
3) Create action items. If you feel like you are not ready then consider requesting my strategizing worksheet. I would be more than happy to send you one or you can purchase a copy of my book Four Steps to a Better Life for $9.95 at http://www.gallaghersolutions.com/book.html. The worksheet is in the book plus other good information that will help you to complete the worksheet.
What I'm working on:
I LOVE to plan. The other day while I was at the vet with my cat the receptionist said "I bet you are so organized". I am but over planning can turn into worrying if you are not careful so keep it productive and then start thinking about something else. That's what I need to work on anyway. :)
Have a great week and Live Well
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Week 13 - Unmet Needs
Hello and welcome to another week of making your goals and dreams come true. Last week we talked about beliefs and hopefully you revised a few of yours. This week we will talk about unmet needs and how they can prevent success.
Most of us are familiar with our basic needs which are things like food, water, shelter and safety. An unmet need will demand action to satisfy the need. A met need requires no action and usually you will not even think about a need when it is met.
There are other types of needs and these vary from person to person. For example; some people need to be the center of attention, some people need beauty in their life, others need adventure and others need stability.
Understanding your needs will help you to satisfy them in a way that is in alignment with your goal. If you do not do this you may find you are getting frustrated because you never seem to get the outcomes that you desire. Here are some examples:
-Let's say you are a person that needs to be the center of attention and your goal is to get a promotion. Your attention getting actions may be creating a perception that you are 'the class clown' and this may not be what your boss is looking for from higher level staff.
-If you require beauty or adventure in your life then it could be you spend significant amounts of time or money on satisfying these needs. A goal of saving money or financial security could be more challenging. And if you are spending your spare time with these needs you may believe you do not have time for your goal and put it off altogether.
-If you require stability you could be missing out on opportunities that come your way.
The Challenge:
1) Create a list of your needs and how you satisfy them; or the action. (e.g., Attention = making people laugh, dressing to stand out. Beauty = makeup, clothing, home decorating, walks in nature. Stability = staying in a job/relationship I don't love.)
2) Scan your list to see if any of the actions related to the needs are in conflict with your goal.
3) Write down a description of how that action may be sabotaging your goal (e.g., Attention = making people laugh at work - This may be a distraction that limits productivity and prevents me from being perceived as a leader).
4) Come up with a new way to satisfy that need (e.g., Attention = making people laugh at work - This may be a distraction that limits productivity and prevents me from being perceived as a leader. Instead I will join a local Improv group.)
What I'm working on:
I have a need to help out. If you are familiar with the Enneagram Personality Profile I am #2 - Giver. There are lots of positives but this can lead me to what I now know to be as interfering. I have learned as a coach that sometimes it is best not to jump in to assist; a persons growth comes from their experience. This has helped me to be more careful when I interact with others. The need to help out can sabotage my goals because if I feel someone needs me I will drop everything to help them. Again - that can be a good thing in many situations but not always. I have to ask - am I helping or interfering and go from there. I've learned to ask if they want help vs. assuming they do and I have learned that listening is sometimes the greatest gift any of us can give of ourselves.
Most of us are familiar with our basic needs which are things like food, water, shelter and safety. An unmet need will demand action to satisfy the need. A met need requires no action and usually you will not even think about a need when it is met.
There are other types of needs and these vary from person to person. For example; some people need to be the center of attention, some people need beauty in their life, others need adventure and others need stability.
Understanding your needs will help you to satisfy them in a way that is in alignment with your goal. If you do not do this you may find you are getting frustrated because you never seem to get the outcomes that you desire. Here are some examples:
-Let's say you are a person that needs to be the center of attention and your goal is to get a promotion. Your attention getting actions may be creating a perception that you are 'the class clown' and this may not be what your boss is looking for from higher level staff.
-If you require beauty or adventure in your life then it could be you spend significant amounts of time or money on satisfying these needs. A goal of saving money or financial security could be more challenging. And if you are spending your spare time with these needs you may believe you do not have time for your goal and put it off altogether.
-If you require stability you could be missing out on opportunities that come your way.
The Challenge:
1) Create a list of your needs and how you satisfy them; or the action. (e.g., Attention = making people laugh, dressing to stand out. Beauty = makeup, clothing, home decorating, walks in nature. Stability = staying in a job/relationship I don't love.)
2) Scan your list to see if any of the actions related to the needs are in conflict with your goal.
3) Write down a description of how that action may be sabotaging your goal (e.g., Attention = making people laugh at work - This may be a distraction that limits productivity and prevents me from being perceived as a leader).
4) Come up with a new way to satisfy that need (e.g., Attention = making people laugh at work - This may be a distraction that limits productivity and prevents me from being perceived as a leader. Instead I will join a local Improv group.)
What I'm working on:
I have a need to help out. If you are familiar with the Enneagram Personality Profile I am #2 - Giver. There are lots of positives but this can lead me to what I now know to be as interfering. I have learned as a coach that sometimes it is best not to jump in to assist; a persons growth comes from their experience. This has helped me to be more careful when I interact with others. The need to help out can sabotage my goals because if I feel someone needs me I will drop everything to help them. Again - that can be a good thing in many situations but not always. I have to ask - am I helping or interfering and go from there. I've learned to ask if they want help vs. assuming they do and I have learned that listening is sometimes the greatest gift any of us can give of ourselves.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)